25 Things I Learnt By Age 25
25 Things I Learnt By Age 25
I know, it’s been a while. But let me tell you, it’s not worth forcing yourself into something that you don’t feel like doing, and lately I really just haven’t felt like blogging. I haven’t blogged since October 2020 (yikes) and I think we can all agree that it was a year where most of us were pretty lost for words.
Since then, I turned 25 (on the 19th of December) and have found myself doing a lot of bizarre overthinking that is definitely bordering on ‘quarter life crisis’ territory. It’s weird because I’m 25, I’m in my absolute prime. Things are GOOD, I’m happy (!!!) But I wonder if it’s the pressure of feeling like l need to make the most of being young, wild and free. Perhaps I just need to let go, enjoy myself, and trust that everything is going to work out, just like it already has up until this very moment.
I’ve been reflecting a lot, so I think it would be nice to share some huge lessons that I’ve learnt during my 25 years of existance. Maybe they’ll help you, or remind you, or inspire you.
25 Things I Learnt By Age 25
Believing in yourself is the best risk you will ever take
2. You will always drift apart from people and move closer to others as the years fly by, your truest friends will always remain constant regardless of how often you see them
3. Always, always, always keep a rainy day bank account for unexpected costs like dentist bills, insurance excess, or if an important piece of tech fails and you need to buy a new phone/laptop/external hard drive. Keep $2000 in here at all times.
4. Find a style of exercise that you love and stick with it. Yoga & pilates has changed my life and I am so relieved to know that I never have to step foot in another gym ever again
5. The grass is greener where you water it.
6. If you don’t ask, you don’t get. In the same breath, where possible, don’t take no for an answer.
7. Ignore the drama, it’s not worth upsetting your inner peace
8. Romanticise your friendships, put effort into them like you would a romantic partner
9. Buy better things so that they last longer. If you’ve invested more money into a particular item, you’ll love it more and want to look after it better anyway. You don’t need a lot of nice things, just a couple that make you really happy
10. Wash your face no matter how drunk you are, you will thank yourself in the morning
11. Making wonderful memories are far more important than getting photos, have nights and weekends and moments where you aren’t even thinking about your phone
12. Unfollowing or muting negative people on social media is one of the best things you could ever do for your mental health
13. You will be happier if you focus on the things that you’ve already got, rather than what you don’t have
14. The universe will reward you for working hard and being different
15. Keeping a routine will stop the anxiety from creeping in. Bed time routine, healthy eating routine, exercise, supplements, all of the things that make you feel good that you do every single day. Do them!
16. Keep reading books, they are soul food
17. There will always be nasty people out there, unhappy people who love to see others suffer and fail. Take pride in the good person that you are, you will always win by being the kinder, bigger person
18. A good, healthy relationship should feel easy. You will argue and go through tough periods, but you should never feel more miserable than happy in the relationship. You will not have to beg or clutch at straws for a relationship that is meant for you. Let go or leave anyone who makes you unhappy or anxious on a daily basis, they aren’t meant for you and there is someone else around the corner who will love you for you.
19. When choosing a romantic life partner, make sure you have the same goals and dreams. This makes life fun AND easy.
20. Get to know your parents as fellow adults. Look at photos from when they were in their twenties, ask them about their younger years, learn and understand that once they were the same age as you, with the same worries, perhaps the same dreams. They will have made some good (bad) mistakes for you to learn from.
21. Call your grandparents, ask them for advice, take as many photos with them as you possibly can
22. Your life could be over at any minute, or you could lose a loved one at any time. Be present with the people you love, put your phone away at dinner time, make the effort to check in, set time aside in your week to make that phone call and send that message
23. The energy you put out into the world will come full circle. Even in your darkest days, try and look for something to be positive about or grateful for, it will always help
24. Apologising and admitting that your wrong is underrated. Forget about your ego, be a bigger person and be open to knowing that you aren’t perfect. It’ll actually take the pressure off!
25. Take photos that aren’t for social media, print them off and put them in a physical photo album. These are the memories you will want easy access to when you’re older.